Separation Anxiety in my 5 Year Old and Going to the Long Wharf Theater in New Haven, CT



My son Massimo just turned 5 years old.  He has always been a very energetic and confident kid.  He is the kid who has never been clingy since birth.

In school he has no issues and runs away from me right when I drop him off. He then gets a little angered when I pick him up because he wants to stay longer!

In the last 2 weeks before his 5th birthday we noticed a slight change in his behavior….he has been experiencing separation anxiety when I leave him.  The scenario varies, but it usually occurs when I drop him of at the grandmother he adores.

My husband and I have reassured him that we will always be there for him, but for some reason he seems a little stressed.

I know that this is a normal developmental stage that we just have to live through.  I do not believe in coddling  this behavior so we are still doing our regular routine and if he has a separation anxiety episode we address it, reassure him, and move on.

The funny thing is when we leave Massimo we are told that he snaps out of the tantrum and just ends up laughing and having fun.

Which brings me to our day at the theater.  Massimo had a tantrum before our departure because he did not want us to leave, but we did not want to reward his behavior and we still went to the theater after reassuring him that we would return.

In New Haven, CT we are very lucky that we have 3 amazing theaters within a 10 minute radius.  There is the Long Wharf Theater, The Yale Repertory Theater and the Shubert.

Michael and I love going to the theater, but we have not had the chance to do it that often since having kids.  When I lived in New York City I got a chance to see such classics like Miss Saigon, Les Miserables, Phantom of the Opera, Aida, to name a few.  I have a deep appreciation for the arts.

We were able to see the musical revival “Ain’t Misbehaving” at the Long Wharf Theater in New Haven, CT on Sunday, November 13, 2011.

It is set in the hey days of 1920s/1930s Harlem and it is a fun show that gives you a little peak into black musical history.

After our cultural jaunt to the theater we returned home to find a laughing and smiling Massimo.  He hugged me and said, “I knew you’d come back.”

My answer to him was, “Of course, I love you.”

It’s been a little over a week since he turned 5 years old.  I am happy to say that his separation anxiety has seemed to dissipate as quickly as it reared itself.

I guess there will be more days enjoying the theater in my future!

I hope you have a wonderful day!



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5 Responses to Separation Anxiety in my 5 Year Old and Going to the Long Wharf Theater in New Haven, CT

  1. Tito Bautista

    It’s natural for a young child to feel anxious when you say goodbye. Although it can be difficult, separation anxiety is a normal stage of development. With understanding and patience, it can be relieved—and should fade as your child gets older.

  2. Marylou Salcedo Tokiyeda via Facebook

    Massimo sounds a lot like Kailani, very smart and independent! I got lucky and spoiled with her, she just made it too easy :) Happy birthday to your boys, I have 2 November kids too! And December. Having winter babies seems to wrap up the year so much faster and makes me wish sometimes they don’t grow up too soon. Enjoy :)

  3. Thanks for reading Marylou. That is so funny that your kids are born on November and December. YOu know what that means right? Your most romantic moments are around Valentines day! Isn’t it wierd that we are blood sisters too?

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