She and her husband have a toddler who is terminally ill. Ms. Rapp says that, “Ronan won’t prosper or succeed in the way we have come to understand this term in our culture; he will never walk or say “Mama,” and I will never be a tiger mom.”
She and her husband have no expectations for their child except to be loved. They try to cherish each day as special. Ms. Rapp says, “Parenting, I’ve come to understand, is about loving my child today. Now. In fact, for any parent, anywhere, that’s all there is.”
They have created a new terminology called “Dragon Parents”.
She says, “We are dragon parents: fierce and loyal and loving as hell. Our experiences have taught us how to parent for the here and now, for the sake of parenting, for the humanity implicit in the act itself, though this runs counter to traditional wisdom and advice.”
Ms. Rapp was primarily speaking about parents with kids who are sick, but I think her “dragon parent” terminology can be relatable to parents with healthy kids. Children should be loved for their inherent being rather than just loved for their level of succeeding and performing.
I am blessed with kids that are healthy. When I see myself getting disappointed because they did not act a certain way, do a certain task or listen, I think back to this article.
A child’s main role, especially when they are in their formative years, is just to be loved.
I am trying to be a “dragon parent” because I want to love my children and bring them up without expectations. I do not need them to measure up to others because they are amazing in their own right.
Massimo and Rocco, my November babies, Happy Birthday to you both! (Especially to you Rocco who was born today!)